You always hear that ‘it’s about the little things’ in life. And while the little things in life should be noticed and appreciated, I believe what’s more important are the things that don’t just make your day (a surprise day off from work/classes, a great hair day, spending time with your favorite people), but instead, cause you to feel a deep emotional reaction. Good or bad, these events can jar you from the ho-hum, ‘auto-pilot’ ways of thinking and feeling that define day-to-day routine, and propel you into entirely new territory. You have no choice but to learn, adapt, and most importantly, grow. Not sure what I mean? Here are a few examples-
1) Standing up for someone.
2) Standing up for yourself.
3) Spending time with someone whose personality, opinions, behavior, or morals are completely opposite of your own.
4) Living with someone new.
5) Facing the realization that certain people in your life are not actually your friends or companions, despite how much you had wished otherwise.
6) Moving to an entirely new city or state (or country!).
7) Meeting someone and instantly connecting with them; feeling like you have known each other for ages, for no tangible reason at all.
8) Finding something that you are truly passionate about- something completely absorbing that makes you lose track of time and worries.
9) Realizing that people will change, yourself included. And that’s not always a bad thing.
10) Forcing yourself to do something you thought you were too afraid to do; giving a public speech, jumping from a plane, approaching that one person at the party.
11) Coming across music that touches you and somehow exactly identifies with how you are thinking/feeling.
12) Doing something creative and 100% original.
13) Realizing that despite your hard work, you still might not be able to achieve something that you wanted.
14) Realizing some people in your life have always and will always be there for you- no matter what.
15) Losing because you didn’t give something 100%.
16) Losing because you did give something 100%, but other factors intervened.
17) Succeeding at something without trying.
18) Going through a dramatic physical change; gaining/losing a significant amount of weight; cutting off long hair, etc.
19) Traveling- especially by yourself.
20) Being solely responsible for the care of a person or pet.
21) Having a loved one pass away.
22) Leaving/being left by someone who has irrevocably impacted your life.
23) Realizing that some people do not nor will ever have your best interests in mind.
24) Being in a relationship where you care about the other person more than they care about you.
25) Being in a relationship where you care about the other person less than they care about you.
26) Being humiliated.
27) A significant change in socioeconomic status.
28) Starting a new job.
29) Making decisions for yourself, knowing you can never make everyone happy- and being okay with it.
30) Falling in love.
Maybe you’ve experienced all of these things, or perhaps none at all; what’s important to know is that life has a funny habit of throwing you into situations that force you to re-evaluate your decisions, yourself, and your life. When this happens, take it in stride, learn what you can, and you will be better for it. Your future self will thank you 🙂